Speaker 1: Welcome to this week’s episode of the Coach Amina Z podcast. Brought to you by coaches Amina Z and Zaid.
Speaker 4: We know that you have big dreams and it’s our job to show you how you can achieve them. We know that you have it in you.
Speaker 1: We are going to show you how you can harness it to lead a smarter, fuller, and larger life on the way to ultimate success.
Speaker 4: And now please welcome the dynamic coach duo, Amina Z, and Zaid,
Coach Zaid: Hello and welcome. Welcome to today’s podcast. Excuse me, your personality is showing. Three practical tips to help you own it.
Coach Amina Z: A personality is very much like hats we wear and today to bring this home, we’re going to focus on the hats we all wear and the three you need to own.
Coach Zaid: For those of you who are familiar with British traditions and more particularly the events. The Royal Ascot is Britain’s most valuable race meeting, attracting many of the world’s finest resources to compete for millions of pounds in prize money. Okay. Okay. I can hear some of you say, what has race horses got to do with hats? Well, in the first place, both women and men wear hats. So this topic is non gender specific.
Coach Amina Z: So if you’re a guy listening, please don’t tune off and think it’s a woman’s topic today. You and I know that one of the marked qualities of a gentle man in dressing is how the hat compliments his sense of style.
Coach Zaid: Yeah, now, we all have our thinking caps or hats on. Let’s continue our discourse. So the Royal Mint is spectacular heritage unlike any other has made the event anticipated and revered the world over. From the arrival of the royal procession at 2:00 PM sharp to the communal singing around the bandstand with six top class races between each of the five days is unforgettable.
Coach Amina Z: Yeah. Royal Ascot is almost as famous for fashion as it is for racing and in fact it is synonymous with sartorial elegance with strict dress codes for men and women. In fact, the dress code is such a focal point of the festivities, that there is an official style guide outlining all the do’s and don’ts of ascot wear.
Coach Zaid: and among the rules, guess what?
Coach Amina Z: What?
Coach Zaid: Hats should be worn. I guess the question is what hat should I wear?
Coach Amina Z: Well, Annie Lennox is a Scottish singer, songwriter, political activist and philanthropist. She and fellow musician David A Stewart went onto achieving major international success in the 1980s. She had this to say about the many hats she wears. I have different hats. I’m a mother. I’m a woman. I’m a human being. I’m an artist and hopefully I’m an advocate. All of those plates are things I spin all the time.
Coach Zaid: It’s not secret that working moms wear many hats. caregiver, professional, counselor, friend, partner
Coach Amina Z: And more
Coach Zaid: And now a study from Cornell University proves what we all suspected. This caused switching of roles is stressful.
Coach Amina Z: Yeah. The simple truth, we all wear many hats whether we realize it or not.
Coach Zaid: Okay. Having established, we all have more than one hats. One of the great things I’ve found about social and cognitive psychology is the way people can shift their presentation, purpose and actions depending on environment and context. Hat’s [inaudible 00:03:52] as some like to call it is a good skill to have. Admittedly, some are better at it than others. We should all have a few hats in our wardrobe, or closets and know how to wear them without stressing ourselves out.
Coach Amina Z: Those who work in startup environments often say they wear many hats. This refers to the idea of doing many jobs as part of one role as is common in small businesses. You are the secretary, you are the boss, you are the receptionist. You’re the sales person. You’re other one in marketing, you’re the one in sales. Everything starts and ends with you. Ain’t no passing the buck here.
Coach Zaid: The same is true of life, when you think about it. In your broad role as human, you are much more than that and you will need to make some depths transition between hearts. For me, the trick is really all in this hat and making sure they represent who you are rather than acting as a disguise.
Speaker 1: Yeah,
Speaker 4: Go confidently in the direction of your big dreams because you can.
Coach Zaid: What coach Amina Z and I want to share with you three hats you should own. I have worn many hats, but today we will focus on three major hats we all need to own.
Coach Amina Z: One of my favorite is the work hat. Who you are at work is not the same as who you are at home. For one, your purpose is different. The rules are different, too. And finally, your motivations are different. For some people wearing this hat is a choice, so a simple means to an end … money. You don’t wear the hat, you don’t get the money. It’s a simple hat with much personality that they don’t necessarily own. Not everyone may be able to align their passion with their work, but if you can find a way to marry the two, even slightly, your hat will be much better suited to you. You will enjoy wearing it. Now, the worst thing to do, which most high achievers are guilty of, is to wear this hat at home. Please, please, please take it off before you get home. In fact, leave it at work. Yes, right on the office hat stand. Guys, your wife doesn’t want that hat at home
Coach Zaid: For sure. She wants the father hat for the kids
Coach Amina Z: And the hot spunky lover hat for her.
Coach Zaid: And likewise ladies, you know what hats your husband is at home.
Coach Amina Z: Oh yeah, we do. We know. It doesn’t want to see the executives. Sure you should don on the mother hat with your children when you get home. But by all means switch that hat consciously to the friend and lover hat for your man.
Coach Zaid: Which lands are smack into number two is the family and friend hats. The people who we love and love us and return, shape our identity in no small measure. They motivate us, give our lives meaning and keep us connected to the world in a tangible way.
Coach Amina Z: The hats you wear with your friends and family is given. It’s respectful and if you’re wearing it the right way, it’s full of joy.
Coach Zaid: Speaking of friends, let me stress that as high achievers, as much as you need seem to achieve greatness, you also need friends, good friends. So to achieve some kind of balance in life, we will explore this particular topic at a later stage.
Coach Amina Z: I would like to add here that if wearing the friends and family hat brings you more pain than joy, you may have a problem. We can’t choose our family, but we can choose how we relate to them and how often we relate to them. We can definitely choose our friends. Toxic characters should not be tolerated. They will only eat away at the fabric of your hat. It’s your responsibility to protect and keep your hat.
Coach Amina Z: This brings us to our third and final hat. The me, myself, and I hat. All the Me, Me, Me hats like I like to call it. This is a self serving hat. The inner you that needs to be cared for and appreciated. If you focus purely on wearing your work and family and friends hat ignoring this hat in the process, you will have issues. That’s because you are more than the things you do and the people you know. I always like to say that we are human beings, not human doings, which means that we have to be first before we do. You have your own hat and you have your own needs, attend to them.
Coach Zaid: Many folks often make the common mistake of wearing this hat to work or social gatherings.
Coach Amina Z: Oh, yes.
Coach Zaid: This is not just a recipe for disaster but is not necessarily advisable. There’s a difference between being yourself at all times and being self centered at all times.
Coach Amina Z: Self care and introspection are essentials. Narcissism is not. Tend to your me, myself, and I hat by spending time with and for yourself regularly to explore your needs, desires, and passions. Learn to enjoy your own company. From there, you’ll be well equipped to embellish your other hats as necessary. We all have a collection of hats in our closet, some old, some new, some that we use regularly and some we seldom use. The trick lies in knowing which hat to wear and when and making sure that they are tailored to our needs. You should never use your hats to hide who you are and want to be. If you are doing that, it may be time to reconsider your style.
Coach Zaid: Open your metaphorical closets, do your hats accurately represent your personality and interests? Perhaps more importantly are the hats you pull over your face, framing your features or covering them up entirely.
Coach Amina Z: Hmm. Good question that we would like you to dwell on. Let us know, please, we’d like to hear your answers. A-List Community. You are amazing.
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